Howdy

[BluBarry]

Just thought that eve though we are all breaking from WoW for a bit thre shold stil be SOME fellowship...

so.. let me start the discussion...



Ever have one of those days when you really want to change some things about yourself? It is not guilt that makes me want to be better... it is a promise of a better future... for My Children, My Wife, and Myself...

I have motivation, but I seem to hit mental roadblocks... I will sit there thinking to myself how I need to do something... I will stare that thing in the face... and do nothing. I am trying to understand what holds me back. I want to see if my brothers and sisters here can help me figure this out.

Ask me questions, give me ideas... lets have some fellowship.

 

[Bowser]

I'm trying to hear you out here, but honestly I'm having trouble following you.

Can you give an example? It doesn't have to be personal.

There are a few things that are coming to mind now, but it doesn't bother me that I can't/don't complete these ideas I have, because usually my life gets filled with others things.

But still, I'm having trouble understanding what you mean.

 

[Icthus]

I get it. As an example for Bowser. I want to be better at my job. This would allow me to better provide for my family. HOwever, I don't want to spend the time getting better at it or even putting in extra hours. Doing this would cause a short term hardship for my family.

Or I need more patience with my wife and kids. So, I need to find a way to be a better person. However, I either dont know how to do this or I am afraid of what it might take to grow myself. Like, getting involved in an accountability relationship.

So Blu, if I am headed down the right path, I try to always make sure I have a few layers of accountability in my life. Not the "Did you look at porn this week" type. But, a deeper level of personal accountability. "Are you being true to who you are". These are more difficult relationships. It requires more time together with people. YOu have to open up more and be far more relational. I have two levels, 1. My day to day- Am I who I say I am. 2. I usually have a spiritual director. This person meets with me once a month. The entire meeting rotates around my soul. I don't ask him questions or relate to him/her. They ask me questions about where God is working and how. I answer. They give me direction based on what they see God doing in my life. It can be pretty cool. I have had three great directors in my life. Each has helped me reach a deeper place spiritually and become a better man.

Hopefully this helps.

 

[BluBarry]

/snaps fingers and points at Icthus


Thats it!

I find it so hard sometimes to sacrifice for "now" to make "later" better... I want to go to the gym, go to church, and have "me" time... but all of those take away from what time I am not at work and with my family... (not church as much, but you get my point)

I never do things just by myself... I wont go to the gym and work out if it requires me to miss out on time with my family...

and I don't go to church funtions because I am always tired... I have no one to hold me accountable. My wife was raised in a catholic family and for her, going to church was never a family priority. When I was growing up we moved around so much It was always hard to find a church home and get settled in... Now that I am an adult I HAVE a church that I enjoy. It challenges me and feeds me.

However, I have few Christians in my life on a personal level. Which is hard for me.

In order for me to go to church every sunday I would have to close at work which means I would not see my family on the one day we have nothing else going on. (The shift would be 330-1230.

Maybe the base issue is that my priorities are out of whack, coupled with a lack of accountibility. No one pushes me to "work out" physically or spiritually...