I cannot imagine what you are going through. Oftentimes we give praise to the service men and forget that their families are also making a huge sacrifice. Please know and I am trusting with you that God has His right hand and loving mercy with each of you. I have been praying for you and your family and I will continue to do so, my sister in Christ. I have you right up there in my heart along with my own family. Please take comfort that while your children aren't exactly fatherless, they don't have their dad in the home. I have always felt that God grants special favours to children whose dads cannot be with them. I am praying especially for you: a peace that only God can give passing all our understanding, to feel His loving arms, and strength for each moment of the day. In addition, that God will send angels of mercy to assist you in areas that are needed.
A father of the fatherless, and a judge of the widows, is God in his holy habitation. Psalm 68:5
...thou art the helper of the fatherless. Psalm 10:14