I've always considered love a choice.
there's often emotions that we associate with love, things such as lust, happyiness, joy, euphoria, various other 'warm fuzzies' but those are not love. They're what the world tells you that love is.
Pay close attention to the soap operas, the prime time dramas. etc. They always associate love with sex and lust. Which plays right with the advertisers, who then associate their products with sex. Its a carefully constructed smoke screen to get you to buy more soda, so that you feel 'loved'.
Love is a decision that irregardless of what happens I will stand beside my wife.
Love is knowing that I would willing lay my life down for someone else.
Love is not an abstract. It's a concrete, definable, measurable thing. You can look at how someone acts and tell whether that person loves the other. Even the Bible describes love by actioins (go reread 1 Cor. 13 for those who don't understand).
as I said, love is a choice. I choose to stay with my wife. I choose to not cheat on her. I choose to do little things to make her happy. I choose to not abuse her.
But that brings into question on how you can feel 'loved' But remember, since love is an action, you can be affected by the consequences. Someone shows you love, it makes you happy. Someone shows you love, it brings you joy. someone shows you love, it gives you the various warm fuzzies. But that's YOUR emotional reaction to someone else's actions and choices. Not some emotional/spiritaul telepathy, where you and someone else are sharing the same feelings. The same way that if someone decides to kill your cat or dog, you feel sad an mad. You don't get those feelings, because the person who did the action had them, but you get those feelings, because something that you had an emotional attachment to (basicaly it's a drug reaction, because it brings you joy being around the animal or whatever you have the attachment to ) has been destroyed.
