Thanks for the prayers. Please continue to pray for us. Her business stuff is a mess. We've so far found $40k + in debts she had and as yet no life insurance (though I doubt it's enough to cover that). We are trying to find a probate lawyer to help guide us through this, but naturally we don't have hardly any money to pay for one and from the looks of it we are awash in more debt than money/assets now. On top of that, it's beginning to sound like she has promised away many of her possessions to my relatives especially her wedding ring which she promised to my cousins (yes plural). So I guess if one of my son's wanted to use grandma's wedding ring, screw them. I'm hurt, confused, angry and trying to greve. Every step forward, we get hammered with something else.