Silly Teenagenessess..ness..ness Is that a word?

billyrayjoebob2

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So, I am 17, and I wish to ask out this girl at my school (it's a christian school, and I know she's a christian) would it be better to just ask her out personally or call her? And where should we go if she should say yes? Movies seem too common imo. I'm just really nervous and bored. Me and nervous do not mix :D
 
This advice comes from an 18-year old single male, so you have been warned.

I'd say it depends on how well you know her. If you've been friends for a long time (and you should be) I'd say do whatever feels most natural, or whatever she's going to be freaked out by the least.

There are other things you should be concerned about. How well do you know the girl? I don't recommend trying to date someone you don't know very well. I made that mistake once and it wasn't pretty. Romance should grow out of a strong friendship, so if you aren't sure you have common interests, or a similar sense of humor, or what have you, I'd suggest seeing if she's a good friend first. The one worthwhile romantic relationship I've had grew out of a long-term friendship, and I wouldn't have had it any other way.

If you want really good advice on dating and stuff, try books by Josh Harris. He's a genius.
 
I have known the girl for a little over 8 months now, and we do have similar senses of humor. In response to hescominsoon, I was just seeking some advice when I was bored. And my father is the preacher at my church :) But he also doesn't know how to keep quiet, and he knows the family of the girl I like. So....Yeah :)
 
u can take it for what it's worth but I don't like taking dates to movies... you buy your way in then sit in the dark and don't talk cuz you are watching the movies (I hope).... anyways places that don't allow you to talk are bad for first dates, take her to a resturant, go rollerskating, iceskating, whatever just do something that gives you two time to talk and get to know each other.

personally, the date idea I like the most is the two of you going to a store and buying two cheap disposable cameras then driving all over the area taking random pictures of each other at different areas of the town, county. If it's fun then it can lead to another date getting them developed and making a scrapbook out of them for your "first date"
 
As for where to go, I like going to a restaurant that neither of you have been to before. It allows for personal conversation but at the same time, gives you both a common new experience to comment on.

Don't go for sushi if you both haven't tried it before, and don't go for anything that can cause food allergies to flare up.
 
Well here is something to think about....what is her family like? Are her parents super-over-protective? I know that my parents were and before I could ever think about actually going out on a date with a guy....that guy had to come to my house for dinner or something and then my parents would give me there input and also tell me if it was ok for us to date....then of course came all the rules...so it may not be as easy as just asking her out and picking where to go unless you guys have done things together before as friends and her family already knows you.....

but yeah...this is coming from somebody whose parents were super-super-super-over-protective.....
 
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